Preparing for the First Meeting with Your Attorney

If you have reached the point where you are considering contacting a family law attorney, you are probably undergoing an emotional and stressful time in you life. Though it will be difficult, you will need to sort out your emotions from the facts in order to proceed because even in family law matters, the court uses a rational, business-like approach. The advice and involvement of an experienced family law attorney can help.

After you decide to make an appointment for your initial consultation, create a list or a timetable of the events that caused you to turn to a lawyer for your family law case. It is important for you to be forthcoming and honest. If your attorney doesn't know all the facts, he or she can't be as effective as possible.

Give your attorney a head start on the discovery process by preparing for your initial consultation. Gather as much factual information as possible.

This is a lengthy list. Do your best to gather all of the following information:

• A copy of any domestic contracts (e.g., a prenuptial agreement, community property agreement).

• Information about any previous legal proceedings between the parties or involving any of the children.

• The name of your employer and the opposing party's employer, including dates of employment.

• Social security and driver's license numbers.

• Copies of your (single or joint) income tax returns for the last two years.

• Copy of your most recent pay stub (if you work outside the home).

• Copy of the opposing party's most recent pay stubs.

• Education and employment background of both parties.

• Names and ages of children.

• Note any "skeletons" that may be at issue, such as drug/alcohol abuse, criminal history of either party, if any, or sexual misconduct.  

Remember, the information you provide your attorney is protected by the attorney/client privilege. It is imperative that you be fully honest with your attorney so he or she can help you.